Updated: Sep 13, 2020
Good shame/bad shame will be felt at sometime in your life. So don't bang your head and hide: instead, learn the roots of the uncomfortable feeling; put yourself on the path to a better self-image. It bores silent testimony to what experts say: that shame, the horrible feeling of being deeply inadequate at our core, is the "secret" emotion, the one we're most likely to keep hidden, not only from others, but from ourselves.
Like a close friend, healthy shame says, "You're not but I like you anyway. Healthy shame gives us permissions to be human. Consequently, shame lays the groundwork not only for being humble but also for spirituality. It lets us know that we are not GOD...that there is something or someone greater than ourselves that we can go to for giudance. Shame becomes "TOXIC" when it becomes a constant in our lives, a sickness of the soul, rather than a healing that helps you continue to strive. In toxic shame, you don't feel like you have a flaw...you feel you ARE the flaw. A weak, defective human being, unloveable and unworthy of love. While any sort of abuse emotionally or physically is bound to generate some sort of shame, the most devastating is sexual abuse. Sexual abuse that occurred in childhood isnt your fault, just as violent abuse that occurs at any age.
Even though there are no real numbers on it, a lot of people